If you ended up on this blog during a Google search for one of the topics found here, you can probably relate to the woman with the Golden Uterus. This is because most stupid ex-wives behave as they do because they have The Golden Uterus Complex. This is synonymous with narcissistic personality disorder, but I suppose it's more fun to label it the "Golden Uterus." Plus, it's funny.
Here is an excellent article on exactly what the Golden Uterus is.
If you enjoy that article, I suggest you stay on that website and poke around a little. It looks like a great place for men to go for advice on various topics. How to handle your stupid ex-wife is something you can use a lot of advice for, I'm sure. I would bet that they also address how to handle your new wife (or girlfriend) who is likely going insane if you are enabling your first wife to control you via your children. Don't ask me how I know...
Thursday, July 5, 2012
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Preventing Phone Contact
Another thing stupid ex-wives are famous for is preventing phone contact between the non-custodial father and the kids. If he calls on the house phone, he will try stupid ex-wife's cell phone. If that doesn't work, he will eventually splurge on a cell phone for the child(ren). Of course stupid ex-wife knows EXACTLY what to do with that...take it..."charge" it...use it...everything EXCEPT leave it in the hands of said child(ren) so that Daddy can call!
Why is this stupid? Well, first off, there is now record from Daddy's phone AND the child's phone of every call that went unanswered while the child was with Mom. If a non-custodial father goes to the point of purchasing a cell phone, give it up! You don't have a "deadbeat Dad" or "loser" on your hands like you would like your friends/family to believe. You have a dad who wants to remain in contact with his kids, which he has every right to do!
Secondly, if your child is old enough to talk on the phone, s/he is old enough to witness what you are doing. And YOU are the bad guy here. You will never win that one, and s/he will ALWAYS see you as the bad guy for keeping Daddy away. And no matter what your child says to your face, they may hate your guts for doing these things and one day they will make sure you pay!
Why is this stupid? Well, first off, there is now record from Daddy's phone AND the child's phone of every call that went unanswered while the child was with Mom. If a non-custodial father goes to the point of purchasing a cell phone, give it up! You don't have a "deadbeat Dad" or "loser" on your hands like you would like your friends/family to believe. You have a dad who wants to remain in contact with his kids, which he has every right to do!
Secondly, if your child is old enough to talk on the phone, s/he is old enough to witness what you are doing. And YOU are the bad guy here. You will never win that one, and s/he will ALWAYS see you as the bad guy for keeping Daddy away. And no matter what your child says to your face, they may hate your guts for doing these things and one day they will make sure you pay!
Friday, June 22, 2012
Things Stupid Ex-wives Do According to Stepmoms
This is a collection of "stupid things" exwives have done according to stepmoms...
~Ours actually refers to herself as a princess
~Telling my husband that it's illegal for me to answer the phone. In my house. Where I live.
~Told my husband that we should "buy her an apartment" because we "make good money".
~ Over Memorial Day weekend she called the cops on my husband because he supposedly kept my stepson on her time, but she was the one who made the agreement that the custodial parent who had stepson on holidays would take him to school the next day.
~Told my husband that my stepson was not allowed to hug me. He was 1 year old.
~She will call his daddy at least ten times a day when she has him and anytime he doesn't answer on the first ring she tells my stepson that daddy doesn't love him enough to answer the phone....
~Years ago when my boyfriend and I first started dating he mentioned to his ex-wife that he was going to marry me one day and she said she will kill us both first.
~When my husband and I started dating, his ex-wife offered to have a threesome with us.
~Over the years, many things were said and done that are just unbelievable. What is so incredible is, she didn't want him, she cheated on him, she kicked him out and she has been married a couple of times since they divorced but she is still pissed that he did not go back to her, tail between his legs (even though she really didn't want him).
~When I became pregnant with our child, when she finally found out about it she called my husband and said, "I guess this means there really is no chance for us."
As you can see, there are some stupid ex-wives out there! Or maybe crazy is the more appropriate word. It's clear that there are a lot of "women" out there having babies who might not be ready to even handle life on their own. If you are a man or if you have a son, it's wise to educate ourselves or our children on these kind of people. They are EVERYWHERE! Do not get sucked into a relationship with a future stupid ex-wife, and for God's sake...wear a condom!
~Ours actually refers to herself as a princess
~Telling my husband that it's illegal for me to answer the phone. In my house. Where I live.
~Told my husband that we should "buy her an apartment" because we "make good money".
~ Over Memorial Day weekend she called the cops on my husband because he supposedly kept my stepson on her time, but she was the one who made the agreement that the custodial parent who had stepson on holidays would take him to school the next day.
~Told my husband that my stepson was not allowed to hug me. He was 1 year old.
~She will call his daddy at least ten times a day when she has him and anytime he doesn't answer on the first ring she tells my stepson that daddy doesn't love him enough to answer the phone....
~Years ago when my boyfriend and I first started dating he mentioned to his ex-wife that he was going to marry me one day and she said she will kill us both first.
~When my husband and I started dating, his ex-wife offered to have a threesome with us.
~Over the years, many things were said and done that are just unbelievable. What is so incredible is, she didn't want him, she cheated on him, she kicked him out and she has been married a couple of times since they divorced but she is still pissed that he did not go back to her, tail between his legs (even though she really didn't want him).
~When I became pregnant with our child, when she finally found out about it she called my husband and said, "I guess this means there really is no chance for us."
As you can see, there are some stupid ex-wives out there! Or maybe crazy is the more appropriate word. It's clear that there are a lot of "women" out there having babies who might not be ready to even handle life on their own. If you are a man or if you have a son, it's wise to educate ourselves or our children on these kind of people. They are EVERYWHERE! Do not get sucked into a relationship with a future stupid ex-wife, and for God's sake...wear a condom!
Sunday, May 27, 2012
How to Win Custody of Your Child
I went to the library yesterday and looked for HOURS for information that a father would find useful in getting custody of his child. I found nothing. But I did find something online that looks pretty good. And you can download it instantly...no trips or time wasted at the library! Here are the chapters included:
CHAPTER 1 THE ROLE OF "BIAS"
CHAPTER 2 MOST FREQUENTLY MADE ERROR
CHAPTER 3 FOURTEEN KEY STRATEGIES
CHAPTER 4 THE SINGLE BIGGEST FALSE ASSUMPTION
CHAPTER 5 STRATEGIES THAT MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU
CHAPTER 6 IMPORTANT THINGS AN ATTORNEY SHOULD BE DOING FOR YOU
CHAPTER 7 STRATEGIES THAT WILL MAKE YOUR OWN ATTORNEY WORK HARDER FOR YOU
CHAPTER 8 THE BRIBED OR MANIPULATED CHILD
CHAPTER 9 A NOTE ABOUT PHYSICAL DISABILITY
CHAPTER 10 CONTROLLING COSTS
CHAPTER 11 WHAT IS THE BEST APPROACH FOR A PARENT TO USE IN A CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTE?
CHAPTER 12 WHAT ARE THE COSTS OF A TYPICAL COMPREHENSIVE CUSTODY EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 13 HOW CAN I MAKE SURE A CUSTODY EVALUATOR HAS THE PROPER EXPERTISE TO CARRY OUT A COMPREHENSIVE EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 14 WHAT CAN I DO IF I BELIEVE AN EVALUATION WAS BIASED, INCOMPLETE OR INACCURATE?
CHAPTER 15 SUMMARY AND MORE
If you are interested in gaining more time, or custody of your child, learn more!
For Our Kids,
Smart One
CHAPTER 1 THE ROLE OF "BIAS"
CHAPTER 2 MOST FREQUENTLY MADE ERROR
CHAPTER 3 FOURTEEN KEY STRATEGIES
CHAPTER 4 THE SINGLE BIGGEST FALSE ASSUMPTION
CHAPTER 5 STRATEGIES THAT MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU
CHAPTER 6 IMPORTANT THINGS AN ATTORNEY SHOULD BE DOING FOR YOU
CHAPTER 7 STRATEGIES THAT WILL MAKE YOUR OWN ATTORNEY WORK HARDER FOR YOU
CHAPTER 8 THE BRIBED OR MANIPULATED CHILD
CHAPTER 9 A NOTE ABOUT PHYSICAL DISABILITY
CHAPTER 10 CONTROLLING COSTS
CHAPTER 11 WHAT IS THE BEST APPROACH FOR A PARENT TO USE IN A CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTE?
CHAPTER 12 WHAT ARE THE COSTS OF A TYPICAL COMPREHENSIVE CUSTODY EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 13 HOW CAN I MAKE SURE A CUSTODY EVALUATOR HAS THE PROPER EXPERTISE TO CARRY OUT A COMPREHENSIVE EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 14 WHAT CAN I DO IF I BELIEVE AN EVALUATION WAS BIASED, INCOMPLETE OR INACCURATE?
CHAPTER 15 SUMMARY AND MORE
If you are interested in gaining more time, or custody of your child, learn more!
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Friday, May 25, 2012
Attorneys to Avoid in Sedgwick County, Kansas
Association of Honest Attorneys is an organization that was formed to help educate the common person about our legal system. It is not only for family court, but ANY court in which you want to come out a winner. If you haven't figured it out yet, no one wins in court.
Association of Honest Attorneys provides a list of "Lawyers to Avoid" as well as "Lawyers to Consider." (Bottom of that page). As you can see, the list is not just local to Kansas or Sedgwick County.
One attorney that IS on that list from Sedgwick County, Kansas is Monica Cameron. If you visit her website (I'm not going to provide the link) you are told that she provides, "Understanding and compassionate legal counsel," and that she, "Listens to you and cares about your family." Her tag line is, "Your family is at the heart of my practice."
I call BULLSHIT.
Monica Cameron doesn't give a shit about you or your children. She will tell you what you want to hear, take your money, and drag it out as long as she can, because...it's more money to her. Duh. It's what attorneys do and she is a pro at it. But while she is raking in YOUR dough, you will be dragged through every legal maneuver imaginable, including postponements, delays, case management, mediation, bogus settlement conferences, unnecessary psych evaluations, and other emotionally draining hoops you will have to jump through before you ever see the light at the end of the tunnel. Meanwhile, nothing is resolved, and the money that should be spent on YOUR children is now in HER pockets.
I have heard so many stories coming from Sedgwick County Family Court losers. I know a father who spent $40,000 on attorney's fees before he realized his attorney and his ex-wife's attorney were scamming them both. They kept the feud on as long as they could, pretending to "negotiate" while they went out to lunch, or did absolutely nothing.
If you have experience with a Sedgwick County attorney that you would like shared on here, please let us know! You can comment below and we will be in touch with you.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Association of Honest Attorneys provides a list of "Lawyers to Avoid" as well as "Lawyers to Consider." (Bottom of that page). As you can see, the list is not just local to Kansas or Sedgwick County.
One attorney that IS on that list from Sedgwick County, Kansas is Monica Cameron. If you visit her website (I'm not going to provide the link) you are told that she provides, "Understanding and compassionate legal counsel," and that she, "Listens to you and cares about your family." Her tag line is, "Your family is at the heart of my practice."
I call BULLSHIT.
Monica Cameron doesn't give a shit about you or your children. She will tell you what you want to hear, take your money, and drag it out as long as she can, because...it's more money to her. Duh. It's what attorneys do and she is a pro at it. But while she is raking in YOUR dough, you will be dragged through every legal maneuver imaginable, including postponements, delays, case management, mediation, bogus settlement conferences, unnecessary psych evaluations, and other emotionally draining hoops you will have to jump through before you ever see the light at the end of the tunnel. Meanwhile, nothing is resolved, and the money that should be spent on YOUR children is now in HER pockets.
I have heard so many stories coming from Sedgwick County Family Court losers. I know a father who spent $40,000 on attorney's fees before he realized his attorney and his ex-wife's attorney were scamming them both. They kept the feud on as long as they could, pretending to "negotiate" while they went out to lunch, or did absolutely nothing.
If you have experience with a Sedgwick County attorney that you would like shared on here, please let us know! You can comment below and we will be in touch with you.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Insisting on Supervised Visitation
Stupid Ex-wives INSIST on their children's father having supervised visitation, and then give numerous (fictional) ridiculous reasons as to why they feel this way. Then, when the father begins dating an upstanding woman who has a college degree, is certified in first aid/CPR, AND has her own well-rounded children, the Stupid Ex-wife will insist that the father have his parenting time AWAY from his girlfriend because his time with his children should be his priority and no one else should be involved.
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Yes, sometimes Stupid Ex-wives are so stupid that they don't even see how stupid their stupidity is. All that matters is what the Stupid Ex-Wife wants. Let's face it, we all know that the Stupid Ex-Wife wants her ex-husband to be unhappy. That's a no-brainer. But when it drags down the kids with him, is it really worth it? And why can't she see what she's doing?! I know...because she is S.T.U.P.I.D.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
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Yes, sometimes Stupid Ex-wives are so stupid that they don't even see how stupid their stupidity is. All that matters is what the Stupid Ex-Wife wants. Let's face it, we all know that the Stupid Ex-Wife wants her ex-husband to be unhappy. That's a no-brainer. But when it drags down the kids with him, is it really worth it? And why can't she see what she's doing?! I know...because she is S.T.U.P.I.D.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Monday, May 21, 2012
Withholding Parenting Time
One of THE STUPIDEST things a Stupid Ex-wife can do is withhold the father's parenting time. Whether she does this by making false claims and accusations in the court system or she goes against a court order, it is SO STUPID!
Why? There is no harder job than being a single mom. There is no one coming home after work to help out or take over. There is no one to make dinner. Ever. When you have your kids full time, it wears you down. You NEED those breaks! When a Stupid Ex-wife is so controlling and out to punish the father that she sabotages her own mental health, it only makes her a bitchier mom and produces unhappy kids. Not to mention that the kids grow up to see Daddy in a positive light because Daddy is well-rested and happy to take them whenever he can!
A smart ex-wife is happy and excited about her kids getting to spend time with Daddy because she gets some time to herself to regroup and rest, and the kids are happier because they are spending time with Daddy. Duh!
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Why? There is no harder job than being a single mom. There is no one coming home after work to help out or take over. There is no one to make dinner. Ever. When you have your kids full time, it wears you down. You NEED those breaks! When a Stupid Ex-wife is so controlling and out to punish the father that she sabotages her own mental health, it only makes her a bitchier mom and produces unhappy kids. Not to mention that the kids grow up to see Daddy in a positive light because Daddy is well-rested and happy to take them whenever he can!
A smart ex-wife is happy and excited about her kids getting to spend time with Daddy because she gets some time to herself to regroup and rest, and the kids are happier because they are spending time with Daddy. Duh!
For Our Kids,
Smart One
How To Divorce With Kids
When you have finally reached the decision to divorce, you probably think like most people, that it is time for both parents to hire expensive attorneys and hunker down for a fight. If you want to spend a lot of money, time, and drag your kids through a couple of years of hell, then go for it. If you want to be smart about it, then listen up...
First, do NOT hire an attorney. If your ex already has, and you were blind-sided by the filing, don't run off and find one for yourself. The number one priority is to work out as much with your ex as you can. I'm going to assume you are a man. And you have been kicked out of your house and your children's lives. Or perhaps you have a sane woman who is granting you liberal (even 50/50) shared custody. Either way, you need to find a 3rd party who can help you and your kids through this.
All kids benefit from counseling during a parental split. Call around and find a counselor who not only works with kids, but is also willing to help you and your ex-wife co-parent. He/she should also be willing to sit down with you together to help work out a parenting plan that will be best for the kids that he/she is already getting to know in counseling. During this process, the counselor is able to see both mom and dad, their temperaments, how they parent, etc. and can help them navigate the best "after marriage" situation for the children. This may mean that the kids live with mom and that dad gets visitation. Or it could mean that the kids live with dad instead. Wouldn't you rather have a counselor help you decide that rather than two attorneys that just want your money and a judge who will barely even know your case?
With difficult exes, you HAVE to find some way of making them work with you rather than jumping right into the court system. What you will OFTEN find in the "justice" system is that the two attorneys representing both sides in a case will drag it out purposefully to get more of your money. They will go "fight it out" for you in a room with the other attorney, where they both will sit and read the paper, make phone calls, etc. while they charge you for the time. You will find yourself in mediation, case management, settlement conferences, and there will be delays and postponements that you don't find out about until after you have left work and headed toward the courthouse. It can drag on endlessly, while nothing in your family gets resolved.
There is very little common sense occurring in family court. You have probably heard numerous stories of judges making stupid decisions. It is everywhere. Save yourself and your family, and don't go there. Your day in court should be with a finalized parenting plan, assets divided, and everything already decided when you are granted your divorce by the judge.
Now, I know that you are here because you have a Stupid Ex-wife. That does not change my advice. As a matter of fact, you have even MORE reason to avoid the court system. Do whatever it takes (within the law and within reason) to convince her it is in her best interest to work amicably with you to resolve any differences and make decisions for your child(ren).
If you would like to learn more about the things I'm saying here, there is a good book called Ten Secrets You Must Know Before Hiring a Lawyer. You also have the internet right at your fingertips to answer any questions you might have regarding, well, ANYTHING pertaining to family law in your area. Do your research and be smart. Don't hand over your life and your money to an attorney who is just looking to feed his family with yours.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
First, do NOT hire an attorney. If your ex already has, and you were blind-sided by the filing, don't run off and find one for yourself. The number one priority is to work out as much with your ex as you can. I'm going to assume you are a man. And you have been kicked out of your house and your children's lives. Or perhaps you have a sane woman who is granting you liberal (even 50/50) shared custody. Either way, you need to find a 3rd party who can help you and your kids through this.
All kids benefit from counseling during a parental split. Call around and find a counselor who not only works with kids, but is also willing to help you and your ex-wife co-parent. He/she should also be willing to sit down with you together to help work out a parenting plan that will be best for the kids that he/she is already getting to know in counseling. During this process, the counselor is able to see both mom and dad, their temperaments, how they parent, etc. and can help them navigate the best "after marriage" situation for the children. This may mean that the kids live with mom and that dad gets visitation. Or it could mean that the kids live with dad instead. Wouldn't you rather have a counselor help you decide that rather than two attorneys that just want your money and a judge who will barely even know your case?
With difficult exes, you HAVE to find some way of making them work with you rather than jumping right into the court system. What you will OFTEN find in the "justice" system is that the two attorneys representing both sides in a case will drag it out purposefully to get more of your money. They will go "fight it out" for you in a room with the other attorney, where they both will sit and read the paper, make phone calls, etc. while they charge you for the time. You will find yourself in mediation, case management, settlement conferences, and there will be delays and postponements that you don't find out about until after you have left work and headed toward the courthouse. It can drag on endlessly, while nothing in your family gets resolved.
There is very little common sense occurring in family court. You have probably heard numerous stories of judges making stupid decisions. It is everywhere. Save yourself and your family, and don't go there. Your day in court should be with a finalized parenting plan, assets divided, and everything already decided when you are granted your divorce by the judge.
Now, I know that you are here because you have a Stupid Ex-wife. That does not change my advice. As a matter of fact, you have even MORE reason to avoid the court system. Do whatever it takes (within the law and within reason) to convince her it is in her best interest to work amicably with you to resolve any differences and make decisions for your child(ren).
If you would like to learn more about the things I'm saying here, there is a good book called Ten Secrets You Must Know Before Hiring a Lawyer. You also have the internet right at your fingertips to answer any questions you might have regarding, well, ANYTHING pertaining to family law in your area. Do your research and be smart. Don't hand over your life and your money to an attorney who is just looking to feed his family with yours.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting
Many of the things posted in this blog will be acts of hostile-aggressive parenting, which leads to parental alienation. So it's important that I post exactly what hostile-aggressive parenting is. I actually came across the term online, completely by accident. But as I read the typical behaviors of hostile-aggressive parents, I could not believe how many of them applied to Stupid Ex-wife. It was UNREAL. So, now we knew what she was doing, and we had a clue as to why. It does not make it much easier to watch a parent do these things to her children. All I can say is document, document, document...
Here is a great website on Hostile-Aggressive Parenting
Here is a great website on Hostile-Aggressive Parenting
Monday, May 7, 2012
Welcome!
If you have, or know someone who has, a stupid ex-wife, you have found your new home! This blog is mostly focused on fathers who are being marginalized by their stupid ex-wives, or alienated from their children. It will also cover issues in family court, especially family court in Sedgwick County, Kansas. I do realize that women are also treated unfairly in family court, but because Kansas is a "woman friendly" court system, and the anti-father system in Kansas is the one that affects me the most, that is what I will have to talk about. If you would like to share your story, please email it to stupidexwives@yahoo.com and I may use it. If you have a complaint about an attorney or judge that you want to share, you can do so as well. All posts will remain anonymous. My main goal is for the people of Kansas to know what is going on in our court system, and to figure out a way to avoid family court all together in a divorce situation.
For our kids...
Smart One
For our kids...
Smart One
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