I went to the library yesterday and looked for HOURS for information that a father would find useful in getting custody of his child. I found nothing. But I did find something online that looks pretty good. And you can download it instantly...no trips or time wasted at the library! Here are the chapters included:
CHAPTER 1 THE ROLE OF "BIAS"
CHAPTER 2 MOST FREQUENTLY MADE ERROR
CHAPTER 3 FOURTEEN KEY STRATEGIES
CHAPTER 4 THE SINGLE BIGGEST FALSE ASSUMPTION
CHAPTER 5 STRATEGIES THAT MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU
CHAPTER 6 IMPORTANT THINGS AN ATTORNEY SHOULD BE DOING FOR YOU
CHAPTER 7 STRATEGIES THAT WILL MAKE YOUR OWN ATTORNEY WORK HARDER FOR YOU
CHAPTER 8 THE BRIBED OR MANIPULATED CHILD
CHAPTER 9 A NOTE ABOUT PHYSICAL DISABILITY
CHAPTER 10 CONTROLLING COSTS
CHAPTER 11 WHAT IS THE BEST APPROACH FOR A PARENT TO USE IN A CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTE?
CHAPTER 12 WHAT ARE THE COSTS OF A TYPICAL COMPREHENSIVE CUSTODY EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 13 HOW CAN I MAKE SURE A CUSTODY EVALUATOR HAS THE PROPER EXPERTISE TO CARRY OUT A COMPREHENSIVE EVALUATION?
CHAPTER 14 WHAT CAN I DO IF I BELIEVE AN EVALUATION WAS BIASED, INCOMPLETE OR INACCURATE?
CHAPTER 15 SUMMARY AND MORE
If you are interested in gaining more time, or custody of your child, learn more!
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Showing posts with label Divorce Attorneys. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Divorce Attorneys. Show all posts
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Friday, May 25, 2012
Attorneys to Avoid in Sedgwick County, Kansas
Association of Honest Attorneys is an organization that was formed to help educate the common person about our legal system. It is not only for family court, but ANY court in which you want to come out a winner. If you haven't figured it out yet, no one wins in court.
Association of Honest Attorneys provides a list of "Lawyers to Avoid" as well as "Lawyers to Consider." (Bottom of that page). As you can see, the list is not just local to Kansas or Sedgwick County.
One attorney that IS on that list from Sedgwick County, Kansas is Monica Cameron. If you visit her website (I'm not going to provide the link) you are told that she provides, "Understanding and compassionate legal counsel," and that she, "Listens to you and cares about your family." Her tag line is, "Your family is at the heart of my practice."
I call BULLSHIT.
Monica Cameron doesn't give a shit about you or your children. She will tell you what you want to hear, take your money, and drag it out as long as she can, because...it's more money to her. Duh. It's what attorneys do and she is a pro at it. But while she is raking in YOUR dough, you will be dragged through every legal maneuver imaginable, including postponements, delays, case management, mediation, bogus settlement conferences, unnecessary psych evaluations, and other emotionally draining hoops you will have to jump through before you ever see the light at the end of the tunnel. Meanwhile, nothing is resolved, and the money that should be spent on YOUR children is now in HER pockets.
I have heard so many stories coming from Sedgwick County Family Court losers. I know a father who spent $40,000 on attorney's fees before he realized his attorney and his ex-wife's attorney were scamming them both. They kept the feud on as long as they could, pretending to "negotiate" while they went out to lunch, or did absolutely nothing.
If you have experience with a Sedgwick County attorney that you would like shared on here, please let us know! You can comment below and we will be in touch with you.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Association of Honest Attorneys provides a list of "Lawyers to Avoid" as well as "Lawyers to Consider." (Bottom of that page). As you can see, the list is not just local to Kansas or Sedgwick County.
One attorney that IS on that list from Sedgwick County, Kansas is Monica Cameron. If you visit her website (I'm not going to provide the link) you are told that she provides, "Understanding and compassionate legal counsel," and that she, "Listens to you and cares about your family." Her tag line is, "Your family is at the heart of my practice."
I call BULLSHIT.
Monica Cameron doesn't give a shit about you or your children. She will tell you what you want to hear, take your money, and drag it out as long as she can, because...it's more money to her. Duh. It's what attorneys do and she is a pro at it. But while she is raking in YOUR dough, you will be dragged through every legal maneuver imaginable, including postponements, delays, case management, mediation, bogus settlement conferences, unnecessary psych evaluations, and other emotionally draining hoops you will have to jump through before you ever see the light at the end of the tunnel. Meanwhile, nothing is resolved, and the money that should be spent on YOUR children is now in HER pockets.
I have heard so many stories coming from Sedgwick County Family Court losers. I know a father who spent $40,000 on attorney's fees before he realized his attorney and his ex-wife's attorney were scamming them both. They kept the feud on as long as they could, pretending to "negotiate" while they went out to lunch, or did absolutely nothing.
If you have experience with a Sedgwick County attorney that you would like shared on here, please let us know! You can comment below and we will be in touch with you.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
Monday, May 21, 2012
How To Divorce With Kids
When you have finally reached the decision to divorce, you probably think like most people, that it is time for both parents to hire expensive attorneys and hunker down for a fight. If you want to spend a lot of money, time, and drag your kids through a couple of years of hell, then go for it. If you want to be smart about it, then listen up...
First, do NOT hire an attorney. If your ex already has, and you were blind-sided by the filing, don't run off and find one for yourself. The number one priority is to work out as much with your ex as you can. I'm going to assume you are a man. And you have been kicked out of your house and your children's lives. Or perhaps you have a sane woman who is granting you liberal (even 50/50) shared custody. Either way, you need to find a 3rd party who can help you and your kids through this.
All kids benefit from counseling during a parental split. Call around and find a counselor who not only works with kids, but is also willing to help you and your ex-wife co-parent. He/she should also be willing to sit down with you together to help work out a parenting plan that will be best for the kids that he/she is already getting to know in counseling. During this process, the counselor is able to see both mom and dad, their temperaments, how they parent, etc. and can help them navigate the best "after marriage" situation for the children. This may mean that the kids live with mom and that dad gets visitation. Or it could mean that the kids live with dad instead. Wouldn't you rather have a counselor help you decide that rather than two attorneys that just want your money and a judge who will barely even know your case?
With difficult exes, you HAVE to find some way of making them work with you rather than jumping right into the court system. What you will OFTEN find in the "justice" system is that the two attorneys representing both sides in a case will drag it out purposefully to get more of your money. They will go "fight it out" for you in a room with the other attorney, where they both will sit and read the paper, make phone calls, etc. while they charge you for the time. You will find yourself in mediation, case management, settlement conferences, and there will be delays and postponements that you don't find out about until after you have left work and headed toward the courthouse. It can drag on endlessly, while nothing in your family gets resolved.
There is very little common sense occurring in family court. You have probably heard numerous stories of judges making stupid decisions. It is everywhere. Save yourself and your family, and don't go there. Your day in court should be with a finalized parenting plan, assets divided, and everything already decided when you are granted your divorce by the judge.
Now, I know that you are here because you have a Stupid Ex-wife. That does not change my advice. As a matter of fact, you have even MORE reason to avoid the court system. Do whatever it takes (within the law and within reason) to convince her it is in her best interest to work amicably with you to resolve any differences and make decisions for your child(ren).
If you would like to learn more about the things I'm saying here, there is a good book called Ten Secrets You Must Know Before Hiring a Lawyer. You also have the internet right at your fingertips to answer any questions you might have regarding, well, ANYTHING pertaining to family law in your area. Do your research and be smart. Don't hand over your life and your money to an attorney who is just looking to feed his family with yours.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
First, do NOT hire an attorney. If your ex already has, and you were blind-sided by the filing, don't run off and find one for yourself. The number one priority is to work out as much with your ex as you can. I'm going to assume you are a man. And you have been kicked out of your house and your children's lives. Or perhaps you have a sane woman who is granting you liberal (even 50/50) shared custody. Either way, you need to find a 3rd party who can help you and your kids through this.
All kids benefit from counseling during a parental split. Call around and find a counselor who not only works with kids, but is also willing to help you and your ex-wife co-parent. He/she should also be willing to sit down with you together to help work out a parenting plan that will be best for the kids that he/she is already getting to know in counseling. During this process, the counselor is able to see both mom and dad, their temperaments, how they parent, etc. and can help them navigate the best "after marriage" situation for the children. This may mean that the kids live with mom and that dad gets visitation. Or it could mean that the kids live with dad instead. Wouldn't you rather have a counselor help you decide that rather than two attorneys that just want your money and a judge who will barely even know your case?
With difficult exes, you HAVE to find some way of making them work with you rather than jumping right into the court system. What you will OFTEN find in the "justice" system is that the two attorneys representing both sides in a case will drag it out purposefully to get more of your money. They will go "fight it out" for you in a room with the other attorney, where they both will sit and read the paper, make phone calls, etc. while they charge you for the time. You will find yourself in mediation, case management, settlement conferences, and there will be delays and postponements that you don't find out about until after you have left work and headed toward the courthouse. It can drag on endlessly, while nothing in your family gets resolved.
There is very little common sense occurring in family court. You have probably heard numerous stories of judges making stupid decisions. It is everywhere. Save yourself and your family, and don't go there. Your day in court should be with a finalized parenting plan, assets divided, and everything already decided when you are granted your divorce by the judge.
Now, I know that you are here because you have a Stupid Ex-wife. That does not change my advice. As a matter of fact, you have even MORE reason to avoid the court system. Do whatever it takes (within the law and within reason) to convince her it is in her best interest to work amicably with you to resolve any differences and make decisions for your child(ren).
If you would like to learn more about the things I'm saying here, there is a good book called Ten Secrets You Must Know Before Hiring a Lawyer. You also have the internet right at your fingertips to answer any questions you might have regarding, well, ANYTHING pertaining to family law in your area. Do your research and be smart. Don't hand over your life and your money to an attorney who is just looking to feed his family with yours.
For Our Kids,
Smart One
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